What is a Toxic Relationship?
A toxic relationship is one in which all parties involved are pulled down by patterned, negative behavior. It is an abusive relationship that harms the mental, emotional and physical well being of the people in it. Toxic relationships are marked by a lack of respect, fear, manipulation and disapproval. Toxic relationships can take the form of committed or casual relationships, but the impact is the same: people in the relationship will be harmed in some way.
Signs of a Toxic Relationship
The signs indicating a toxic relationship are as varied as the individuals in the relationship. There can be verbal, physical and emotional abuse and/or manipulation. Listed below are some of the more common signs that indicate a toxic relationship:
1. Frequent Put Downs: name-calling and belittling comments, sarcasm and humiliating behavior.
2. Control: the other person controls what you wear, what you do and who you talk to.
3. Threatening Behaviour: making threats, even if they are only made in jest.
4. Isolation: making it impossible for you to form relationships with other people.
5. Guilt: making you feel guilty for choices you make.
6. Verbally Aggressive: verbal aggression, such as yelling or swearing.
Ending a Toxic Relationship
Ending a toxic relationship can be one of the most difficult decisions you will ever make. It is important to remember that you have the right to be respected and demand treatment that is healthy and positive.
Firstly, it is important to remember that it is not your fault that you are in a toxic relationship. You may be feeling guilt and shame for how your partner has been behaving, but it is important to remember that you are not responsible for any of their actions.
If you are feeling threatened or scared to end the relationship, it may be necessary to seek out help. Consider talking to a counselor or a friend who can help support you in your decision to end the relationship.
It is important to remember that you are worth being in a healthy, supportive and loving relationship and you will find someone that respects and values you in the way that you deserve.